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January 2, 2020

It was a festive night to walk through the city on that first December Saturday. The festive lights in Greektown welcomed the balmy fresh air as green, and red lights lit the skyline above our heads as we walked toward the church anticipating the performance, a sold-ou...

December 6, 2019

I made a trip to my mom's house yesterday, one hundred and eighty peaceful miles roundtrip. For a Midwest December day, it was magnificent. The air was balmy and fresh. The sun was vibrant and aglow from its rising until its setting over the humble Indiana farmland. Th...

October 1, 2019

The Bouquet

I found a bench

Deep in the woods

Where no one else can see me,  

While here I sit

Among the brush

The tree trunks stand to heal me

Before my eyes

One calls to me

My heart it lifts, the embrace

Rest now with me

It softly speaks

To the tears upon my face

I made this spot


September 19, 2019

While eating lunch today, the emotions of grief showed up at the table without an invitation. Sorrow came out of nowhere. It rolled right up into the eggplant rollatini and pasta on my plate; wrapped itself around my fork; slid down my throat; and freely dispersed itse...

September 3, 2019

When I visit the Atlantic or am at the lake, I rise early to see the sun pierce above the water or over the trees. The sun outdoes its own magic each day regardless of the elements that greet its appearance. I notice the sun never resists mist or marshmallow clouds, a...

June 17, 2019

Today is my Madre's 89th Birthday! In one breath, I'm saying, "Wow, how incredible that she has reached this age."

And in the next,

"Wow, I can't believe how much has changed in a year."

Last year for my mom's birthday, I took her out to lunch and to get a manicure before...

April 18, 2019

Some mornings, it is so tempting to ignore Alzheimer’s and want to run away from it the minute I wake up. To say battling dementia is easy would be the fattest lie ever told. But it is a force that I have unexplainably decided to stand up to for the sake of my mom’s di...

April 6, 2019

I love this picture not because I’m in it and not because my mom and I have been best friends or see eye to eye. I love it because my mom is smiling and giggling. Obviously I am too. I cherish it because my mom and I are opposites, but over the years we have grown to u...

March 22, 2019

Today has been a special day for me for the last 23 years. It is the day of my dad's funeral and burial. I remember it being a frigid March day, the ground still frozen with snow flurries chilling my bones in the graveyard. Maybe there were specs of spring budding from...

March 8, 2019

Behind every caregiver, there are people that rarely are seen. They are behind the scenes loving, supporting, sacrificing, and witnessing what it takes to care for someone with Alzheimer’s. With more than 60% of Alzheimer’s and dementia caregivers being women, there ar...

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