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February 29, 2020

Last Sunday at an event, I saw a friend who I haven't seen in a while. We had a quick few moments to greet each other before it started, and she managed to slip in the question, How's grief? I didn't have an answer, really. It came more from a twitch of my shoulders wi...

February 28, 2020

I love the selfless soul of Saint Teresa of Calcutta. Tiny but mighty, wasn't she? Her actions spoke louder than words, though her messages are a powerful melody. In the days before my mom died, I came across her simple but profound phrase, "Be the one." I've read she...

February 27, 2020

Last night, my husband asked me what my plan is for Lent. I told him I'm taking a chance and will try and fulfill this 40 Days With My Mother reflection idea. I'll share my voice of a traveler who doesn't have it all figured out. I won't pretend I have it all figured o...

February 26, 2020

When I was getting ready this morning to receive my ashes, I realized the idea of 40 Days With My Mother came to me three Lents ago, not two. I remember the day clearly. My mom had a doctor's appointment on the afternoon of Ash Wednesday. I had planned to drive to Sout...

February 25, 2020

My mom's wake was in the church she attended. It was an atmosphere that offered me air to breathe and one with which she would have been pleased to be resting during the vigil dedicated to her. I am so grateful for my friends who traveled the distance on a weekday to s...

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Presence in the Middle

Follow the Light

When I am stripped of my roles as daughter, sister, wife, mother, friend, volunteer, and employee, I am Marie; a woman who rests in the wholly middle of her life. I live on the bridge of harmony that connects me to the light of the human and universal spirit. I rush slowly and linger, both of which invite me to passionately observe the world around me so I don't miss this one life I have been given.  I am also real and authentic, a Sagittarius, and a wanderer in search of the meaning of life -- with an eclectic toolbox to help live an intentional life of well-being for myself and for the greater good. Below are three pieces of the design of The Wholly Middle.

 

Nourishment

I am on a continuous hunt to be fed in ways to live a life with vitality. The arts inspire me, my Italian roots ground me, and Spirit-filled communities enliven me. We, as a human family, have the choice to either encourage or discourage each other to live with love and lift one another up in sisterhood and brotherhood. In the wholeness of our coming together, we are presented with the opportunity to feast at the table of love.

The Sandwich

For five years, I lived in-between the depths of caring for my mom who was taken over by Alzheimer's and the demands and responsibilities of motherhood. These years were extremely challenging for me, my husband, and four children. Yet, they were also very fulfilling with moments of beauty and a period where we learned one of life's most important lessons: how well we are capable of loving, caring for, and being patient with one another. Because of this experience, I continue to be an Alzheimer's advocate. Caring for a loved one who suffers with memory loss or another illness is difficult, and I continue to share my experience to support others and help them not feel alone.

Becoming

I am about to turn 50 which is both an exhilarating and interesting feeling. I have chosen to embrace it as a sweet spot of opportunity to contribute more light into the world.  Life experiences have an impact on how we live mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. Society and other distractions and pressures can also have false influences on who we should be, what we should look like, and how we should live. I don't buy into the idea that the fountain of youth dries up by a certain age.  My life experiences have presented me with voids and losses teaching me to live with intention genuinely. I bypass the road of shoulds and shouldn'ts and aim to live with freedom and joy on the winding trail of life.  Even when at times it seems dry or chaotic, the fountain of light provides wisdom that outnumbers age. This wisdom recognizes that beauty exists in the true self of a woman; the authentic person she was born to be without masks, labels, and roles.